‘You’re not invited to the wedding’: Man Gives His Family a Fake Invitation to His Wedding But They Find Out, Resulting in Family Dispute

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 8, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Weddings have so much diversity and emotion tied to them. From all the planning, the invitations, having everyone you know and love together for one event celebrating your love, it's a lot to take in. Having both sides of the families there can also be quite a mess. There's a myriad of dramatic situations that come up during weddings due to this clash of personalities. It's almost like living in a movie. 

It's perfectly acceptable to invite or not invite whoever you want. Just because someone is family, doesn't mean you owe them an invitation. Having clear boundaries with people (even your family) is an important part of being a healthy human and living an authentic life. Just because they're your parents doesn't mean they actually want the best for you. Remember that your wedding is yours, and if you don't want your coworkers, parents, or anyone else there, then don't invite them!

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  • 01
    r/AITAH ⚫ 13 hr. ago Difficult-Cell-1825 AITA for intentionally giving my parents an invitation with the wrong time and address on it for my wedding?
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    Removed from the other sub because apparently planning ahead is now considered revenge. I do not talk much with my parents or my family. We all prefer it that way. Lots of history I will not get into. I especially loathe my uncles and my brothers.
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  • 03
    I met my wife in nursing school. She is amazing and we are going to have a great life together. I didn't want to invite my parents and my wife was cool with that. We paid for everything ourselves so they didn't really have any say in the matter.
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  • 04
    I did inform them that we were getting married. They begged to come. I agreed on the condition that they couldn't tell anyone else much less add to our guest list.
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  • 05
    I did not trust them. So I had the printers make up a few "test prints" with the wrong place and time. I gave two of these to my parents. I told them we were hosting with an open bar. I reiterated that they were not to tell anyone.
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  • 06
    I had one of my cousins whom | love and has gone NC with his family babysit them the day of the wedding. They have a tendency to be late. I had him lie to them and say we were doing the formals first so they had to be dressed and ready to go early.
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  • 07
    He got them to the church on time. The ceremony went well. They did not embarrass themselves by frantically calling everyone they invited.
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  • 08
    We did our pictures and they begged me to tell them the actual location of the reception. I said that wasn't happening. They were welcome to either come as guests or leave.
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  • 09
    They left. My cousin drove them home. They tried to bribe him to tell them where the reception was. He says he laughed at them. None of those people know how to contact me so no flying monkeys. But my mom and dad are upset because they got a lot of grief from people they told about the wedding.
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  • 10
    I know it was stupid to even invite them. Please don't rub it in. It was hard to see them begging and not give in a little.
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  • 11
    Utter_cockwomble • 12h ago NTA. My dad had to lie to his own sisters about the time if their mother's funeral, as they are consistently hours late to any function.
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  • 12
    He told them it started at 9. It actually didn't start until 10:30. They arrived at 10- an hour after the time they were told to be there. For their mother's funeral! Keep in mind we're Catholic, so it's not like we could have held up the service for them- the church and the priest have schedules.
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  • 13
    After my dad passed (yes we had to lie about his too) I just stopped inviting them to things. Baby shower from 1-4? They'd show up at 3:45 and be mad the gifts were opened and the food was gone. Last I heard most of the family had done the same.
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    • rubiepistol 12h ago NTA and these people saying you are are dumb. It is not your responsibility to babysit the people that your parents invited. You did what you had to do to have your parents there but still have a drama less day. I could see doing the same.
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  • 15
    butterflyprinces8... • 12h ago NTA they literally proved you right. They can take a hike
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    Wide-Serve-1287 • 12h ago NTA, and shout out to the hero of this story, your cousin! I love them for you.
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  • 17
    MizzyvonMuffling • 12h ago BRILLIANT!!! Post it on all the wedding subs because great stuff!! Much more couples need to do it exactly that way!
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  • 18
    Ipso-Pacto-Facto 11h ago Sometimes when famous people want to find out who the mole who is selling information is in their circle of trust, they plant different information with different people. Because they could come to the reception as guests, I'm not sure why what you did was wrong.
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  • 19
    Were you thinking they would text the uninvited guests to just show up to the reception when they got there? Still a risk.
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  • 20
    No_Adhesiveness... • 11h ago ΝΤΑ I wish I had lied about the time of my wedding but only to get everyone there on time. I was 20 min late to the ceremony because of my mother - we were traveling in the same car and she took forever to
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  • 21
    finish getting ready. Then once we get there, we had to wait another 45 min to a hour for my mil and sil to arrive. I was fuming. It was an outdoor ceremony, it was hot and humid and about to rain, my feet were killing me. My dad whose temper I inherited was the
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  • 22
    If I knew then what I know now, I would've walked down the aisle without waiting for them.
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